Dominance in BDSM survey

1. I find it difficult to leave important matters within my interactions unresolved.

1. During my interactions, I tend to be the one who gets things started

1. Giving instructions is a natural part of how I interact with my play partners.

1. 1. I am drawn to authoritative roles because of the respect they receive.

1. I enjoy bringing different elements of a play scene together

I tend to be the one who decides what kinds of attitudes, responses, or behaviors are appropriate within the dynamic.

1. Before leadership has been established within a dynamic, I naturally begin acting in a leadership role.

1. When rules have been established, I usually make sure they are followed.

1. I prefer dynamics that are shaped around my preferences.

1. When authority roles are possible, I usually choose the highest ranking one.

1. I tend to determine what behaviors fit and which do not fit the dynamic.

1. When I give instructions, I expect my play partners to follow them

1. I often assume responsibility for defining how things will work.

1. I tend to coordinate the different parts of a play scene.

1. I usually take the lead in defining the norms governing my interactions.

1. I often find myself leading without consciously deciding to do so.

1. I want dynamics to revolve around what i enjoy.

1. My play partner should orient their actions around mine during our interactions.

1. I feel most comfortable when I am the one making the decisions within my interactions.

1. I often tell my play partners what they should do.

1. I usually redirect behaviors that don't match how I want the dynamic to unfold.

1. I tend to keep addressing behaviors I dislike until they improve.

1. I do not mind when someone else decides what we will do.

1. I naturally try to shape my play partners' actions during our interactions.

1. It is I who often decides who should do which tasks.

1. I quickly notice changes in my play partner’s behavior during our interactions.

1. Whether my play partner follows my lead or not makes little difference to me during our interactions.

1. I tend to take the leadership role in my interactions, whether or not one already exists.

1. I generally address situations before they drift away from the expectations I have established.

1. I tend to be uneasy when expectations within my dynamics are unclear.

1. Interactions are more satisfying to me when I can influence my play partner’s behavior.

1. I naturally expect my partner to follow my lead during our interactions.

1. I rarely let my influence over a dynamic fade without trying to reestablish it.

1. I usually remind my play partners of the expectations that guide our interaction.

1. I prefer dynamics that are shaped around my partner's preferences rather than my own.

1. I tend to be the one who assigns roles within my dynamics.

1. When a dynamic starts drifting away from our agreed expectations, I naturally bring it back on track.

1. I tend to make sure my play partner follows through on what is expected of them.

1. During my interactions, I naturally take on the role of giving directions.

1. Within my interactions, I tend to gravitate toward roles that place me above the other people involved.

1. When expectations have not been established, I tend to specify them.

1. Within my interactions, I rarely let behavior I deem inappropriate continue without responding.

1. A central part of the appeal for authority roles is being admired by my play partner(s).

1. I often assign responsibilities during my interactions.

1. I dislike leaving decisions within my dynamics to someone else.

1. I find it unexpected when my play partner does not follow the directions I give.

1. I rarely wait for my play partner to start the dynamic.

1. I often expects and explanation when my play partner's behavior creates a problem.

1. I naturally slip into the leadership role during my interactions.

1. I tend to point out behaviors that I want my play partner to change.

1. I rarely let agreed-upon expectations go unenforced.

1. I dislike it when interactions drift away from the way I established them.

1. I tend to hold my play partners accountable for their actions.

1. I don't enjoy it when my influence over the dynamic decreases.

1. I tend to be the decision-maker within my interactions.

1. I often influence how situations unfold during my interactions.

1. I tend to ensure all elements and people during a play scene work together.

1. I feel out of place when I am not the one leading.

1. I like taking the lead during my interactions.

1. I tend to ensure my play partner gets the benefits and owns the consequences of their actions within my interactions.

1. When establishing roles within my interactions, I usually position myself above the others involved.

1. I prefer being the one who determines the overall direction during my interactions

1. I am the one who sets things in motion during my interactions.

1. I tend to keep track of my play partner’s behavior during our interactions.

1. I naturally approach my interactions with the intention of influencing my play partner's behavior.
   

1. I rarely allow unclear expectations to persist within my dynamics.

1. I let the course of my interactions develop on its own without trying to shape it.

1. I naturally keep track of everything that is happening during my dynamics.

1. It is part of my role to ensure my play partner meets the expectations we agreed.

1. I tend to pay attention to how different aspects of a dynamic are progressing.

1. Small departures from how I intended the interaction to unfold rarely go unaddressed.

1. I often find myself deciding how things should be done in a new situation.

1. I find leading roles more appealing when they are viewed with admiration by my play partner(s).

1. Maintaining my influence over the dynamic is important to me.

1. I naturally observe how my play partner responds throughout our interactions.

1. I don't feel the need to keep track of everything happening during an interaction.

1. I tend to be the one who keeps everything working together during my interactions.

1. I regularly make sure agreed expectations are being met during my interactions.

1. I am more comfortable leading than following.

1. I generally assume my play partner will do what I ask during our interactions.

Which of the following best describes your role or orientation?

How much experience do you have with these types of dynamics?

How do you mainly engage with these dynamics?